Online dating is now the norm, with people getting to know each other online — or at least screening each other — before that first date.
She's also been seen on TV shows such as Homeland and Law & Order: Special Victims Unit; and in film such as Whiplash, The Longest Ride, Band of Robbers and Patriots Day.
Activities and relationships within a BDSM context are often characterized by the participants taking on complementary, but unequal roles; thus, the idea of informed consent of both the partners becomes essential.
The terms "submissive" and "dominant" are often used to distinguish these roles: the dominant partner ("dom") takes psychological control over the submissive ("sub").
Dating is still about getting to know someone, taking the time to see if you connect spiritually, emotionally, intellectually and physically. From early on, be intentional about showing real interest in the other person and getting to know one another as transparently as possible.
Most of that age-old advice is as pertinent as ever: Be yourself, smile, keep an open mind, and be honest.
For the medical condition in which pain/humiliation is required for sexual arousal and causes distress or impairment, see Sexual masochism disorder.