My hormone levels had clearly dropped off, and I hadn’t been feeling as sexually … (MORE: The New Midlife Dating Question: What's Your Credit Score?) A New Set of Dating Requirements Because I'm no longer a raging hormonal machine (in either the pre- or menopausal way), my rational mind has a much larger say in my choice of a partner than in my past.was interested in things beyond “candlelit dinners and sunset walks on the beach.” I read his amusing and engaging profile (and the photo wasn’t bad), and my intuition said, “This could be the one.” I sent him a simple greeting and asked what movies and types of music he liked (those and political leanings are my litmus test).A flurry of emails led to a lively — and encouraging — phone conversation, which led to plans to meet for lunch a few days after Thanksgiving.Now that I’ve reached the age where I can start withdrawing from my Roth IRA (59½), and ever since the cost of my health insurance jumped 26 percent, I've found that what turns me on is a man who is not only honest, intelligent, fun, thoughtful and sexually attractive but also one who has health insurance, a good retirement plan and a steady income.I was surprised to discover how large a role my security needs played in terms of how much I was willing to “play ball.” While Sam had all the wonderful character traits I craved — plus he loves to fix things and cook and even clean up — he was unemployed, his health insurance was about to run out, and his 17-year-old BMW made noises like a herd of stampeding elephants.You may be harboring unrealistic expectations, even if you're not conscious of your current idealism.It's much easier to form an opinion and then cling to it, no matter what. You imagine being a muse for someone whose work you admire.
Haha Fahrin Jaffer changed her Facebook name to "Farheen J-A" or something like that.
A conversation with a friend can take you in a totally unexpected direction today.