One of the most important aspects of a healthy marriage is mutual respect, says Savage.
When that's gone—when one partner consistently feels dismissed, rejected, and condescended to (and the other partner doesn't see it or refuses to talk through it), you're in a bad place.
What is your new life going to look like, and how do you start moving in that direction?
Here are eight of the first steps: Nobody gets married thinking, "I sure hope we can get divorced someday!
Some of it stems from the confusion that occurs between the child’s age at the divorce and the child’s age when problems develop.
"You can't go anywhere like that." A good rule of thumb: If it's been a year with no progress, it may be time to call it quits.
You've signed the divorce papers, and the relationship you entered with so much hope is officially dissolved. Maybe you had been married for decades, maybe just a year or so. Maybe the divorce was your idea and maybe it was your partner's, or maybe you both agreed that separation was best.
Maybe you're relieved, maybe you're heartbroken -- or a bit of both.
Thus, studying 12 year old children of divorce is not as simple as it may appear.
The data is inconclusive as to whether young children are at a greater risk for adjustment problems, but they clearly are harmed by it as much as older children are.
Younger children may have less ability to sense and intervene to stop arguments, possibly leading to less risk, but they also have fewer cognitive resources to make sense of events and emotions, possibly leading to higher risks.