Once considered a realm inhabited only by the socially awkward, online dating is now just another tool in the toolbox, no matter whether you’re looking for a hook-up or your soulmate.....
To explore this topic, I pulled aside two individuals who I knew were hunting for a long-term relationship using online dating websites, and asked them about their experiences with the services.
dominance, agreeableness, physical attractiveness, wealth, etc.), and on the sexual success of men with different personality traits, to shed light on the "nice guy" phenomenon.
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It almost seems like most men fall into either the bad boy or the nice guy category. Also, if they're busy fixing someone else, they don't have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives. Bad boys send out a subconscious message that they those powerful genes.
Here a few reasons (some legitimate and some just stereotypes that won't die) why girls like bad boys and dismiss the nice guys: 1. They are busy being nice instead of being real, and women instinctively don't trust that. Nice guys don't set boundaries or make any real demands. If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there.
While some women say they want a nice guy, they usually end up dating bad boys. No one can always be that nice unless they're a saint. Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they're attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. Nice guys' fear of losing their woman sends the exact opposite message.
In my opinion, the ideal man is neither but walks that fine line between the two. Predictable plus no excitement plus no challenge equals "I prefer a bad boy."Women are designed to nurture. They believe their genes are so strong that they aren't afraid of losing a woman because of bad behavior.
They interpret various studies on female attraction to various traits in men (e.g.
Participants in studies interpret "nice guy" to mean different things.
In their qualitative analysis, Herold and Milhausen found that women associate different qualities with the "nice guy" label: "Some women offered flattering interpretations of the 'nice guy', characterizing him as committed, caring, and respectful of women.
The two services used by these individuals were OKCupid and Match.com, two of the largest and most popular dating websites on the Internet.
What I learned from carrying out an interview of a female and the interview of a male trying to dig into this intriguing subject was that using the Internet for dating is equally painful for men and for women, but for very different reasons.
You can’t watch as they smile, and that smile spreads up into their eyes and transforms their face into one of the most beautiful things you’ve ever seen – a thing that warms your heart and makes you realize you want to spend more time with the person. Unfortunately, the reality is nowhere near that fantasy.