The reality is that playing emotional detective usually only succeeds at doing one thing: Making the girl go absolutely crazy.
My suggestion is rather than trying to “solve the mystery”, assume that things are the way you want them to be. Worrying what the other person thinks usually just creeps them out…
but assuming that they like you in the way that you want them to…
well, that usually leads to them actually liking you!
I’m not ugly, but I don’t have much beauty privilege (and make no mistake, beauty privilege yields tangible rewards). “I don’t have to.” [Go ahead, ladies, make the first move.
I have pock-marked skin, hooded eyes, and a bulbous nose.
My voice is deep, which apparently makes me less desirable to men.
I’ve been in an obnoxiously happy relationship for 15 years.
I try not to be an asshole about it, so I don’t go around giving advice or writing something asshole-y like “Lessons I’ve Learned From Being Happily Married, Not That You Would Know You Sad, Pitiable, Single Who Will Likely Have Your Dead Face Eaten By Your Pet.” But occasionally, a non-attached person will ask my advice about someone that he or she is dating.To answer your question from the information you’ve given me… From what you told me, my read on what you’re trying to figure out is one of three scenarios: a) you want to know that he likes you because knowing someone likes you feels good, b) he is indifferent to you (in the romantic sense), but you and you’re seeing what you want to see, c) you don’t know whether or not he likes you, but you’d be open to starting something with him.