Some people consider themselves skilled communicators because they can talk endlessly.
Before we get to those, let’s review a few general guidelines for dating discourse: Listen as much or more than you talk.
A man and woman face each other across a table at a downtown bistro, looking nervous and awkward. There is a stiff formality to the way they sit—no slouching. In reality, premature or exaggerated revelations are due more to boundary issues, unresolved pain, or self-centeredness than true intimacy. Maybe your first date questions will lead you to discover that this person is your soul mate—or maybe not.
(And I usually am.) I hate when guys wear athletic sneakers with khakis.
If you met an attractive man at a party, you would be showing him your best side and flirting up a storm. For some women that sounds horrid but in real life we do it all the time.
You are literally marketing yourself to the male population online.
The only difference is in real life you have time to immediately correct a faux pas.
So you need your profile to show you off in a way that will catch a man's eye and interest right away. You might laugh more at his jokes, you pay closer attention to what he says, and you show your best side. Excitement is what you want a man feeling when he's done reading what you've written.The two pick at their dinner salads, staring down at the leafy mound before them. Finally, one of them tries to grease the wheels of conversation. The process begins by providing lots of space for the full expression of information and asking follow-up questions to further draw out the one talking.