The fact of the matter is, when you date in another country, it can be difficult to find a partner.Often the rules are different (and things like that). But if you want to leave, let’s leave,’ his girlfriend said.Often, she would say something she didn’t mean, and Andre took her literally. Some of the women who frequent them are looking specifically for western men and not all of them are looking for a long-term (or honest) relationship.Andre’s case was misfortunate because he had a particularly direct communication style and his ex-girlfriend had a particularly indirect communication style. When Charles, a British guy, met her, he immediately liked her. A few days later, Charles sent her a message: ‘Hey, let’s go out again sometime.’ To this, she politely replied, ‘No thanks.’ Her lack of interest wasn’t the only problem. Some of these restaurants are managed by Japanese-Indian couples.James is a British man who is said to have slept with more than 100 Japanese women. She was a rock musician but she dressed very nicely. Charles didn’t speak much Japanese, and she didn’t speak any English at all. (I know this because the Japanese wives tend to be very friendly and often talk to me.) Danuja, a Sri Lankan man who has lived in Japan for 11 years, had two long-term relationships with Japanese girls prior to his current Japanese girlfriend. They became friends first and it took six months for them to start dating.They walked around the lake to enjoy the beautiful scenery. In the course of a conversation where she accused him of doing all the wrong things, she brought up the incident, saying that she had actually wanted to stay, and blamed him for not taking her hint. When he was dating her the second time, she was cheating on her husband. He was always looking for a serious relationship, but the girls from those bars didn’t want the same thing.They wanted to explore the area more, but in order to do that they had to take the ropeway. They joined the queue, even though they were a bit put off by its length. Looking back, that was just one of their numerous miscommunications. The ‘bars’ they talk about are western-style bars which are relatively rare in Japan.
“I moved to Japan when I was 18 and have been dating Asian guys ever since. I often hear girls who long for Asian boyfriends say that Western guys are dogs, and I can confidently say that Asian men are no different.These are the types of guys I feel we foreign girls encounter most. ” I think that’s generally a big problem – not only when trying to find an “honest” relationship, but also true friends.